The Huffington Post describes mosting as a dynamic that often includes "love bombing," or showering a partner with affection before quickly withdrawing it. The outlet's go-to dating coach, Neely Steinburg, explained mosting as she's seen it in dating. "I've had clients tell me stories where guys have really come on strong in the beginning and then all of sudden disappeared." She argues that this doesn't necessarily happen out of nowhere, since the culprit may have seemed hyper-interested in the relationship too quickly. "There are usually yellow flags, if not red flags, that perhaps they chose not to notice," she shared. "It's almost a false sense of intimacy that people want to believe in so they ignore the quick pace of things."
What's the most confusing part of a dissolving situationship? Amy Chan, the founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp — a mentorship program, masterclass, and book — told Byrdie that "there is no start or end." She explained that in these relationships "you're constantly in-between. There is no container, and there are no rules."
If the emotional rollercoaster of a relationship is the only feeling of connection you've known with someone, you may continue to accept less-than-ideal treatment from that partner. "A lot of people say they want to move on, but they don't," Chan argued. This is especially difficult to correct when there are no rules or codes of conduct the partners expect each other to follow. And common respect should be, but isn't always, a given.
